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The most challenging aspect of being a survivor of abuse is loneliness. Survivors often don’t speak of what they’ve been through not only because of the shame attached but because it can feel as if no one else understands.



Survivors don’t want to be looked at differently yet what they’ve been through IS different than someone who hasn’t been abused in any way and their struggle can be a daily battle with conflicting emotions. Rarely does a survivor feel they can trust their own emotions because they’ve been told they don’t matter, to stifle them, or what they feel is wrong.

Hopeful Hearts Ministry is dedicated to help give a VOICE to survivors of abuse. To be the avenue in which they can find their voice with others who have gone through the same struggles with emotions, insecurities,  and fears. You are not alone.


I’ve been struggling lately with being able to trust my feelings. Should I feel this way? Do I have a right to feel this way? How do I handle feeling this way? Am I acting like a victim because I feel this way?

That’s the worst, to have overcome so much and then to fear being lumped back into the ‘victim’ mentality.  The reality is when we face and voice the emotions (even the self pitied, selfish ones) it shows you aren’t a victim, that you are recognizing the pain (especially if it’s irrational) and working through it.

A victim relishes their pain, swims in the pit of despair and can not see beyond their sorrow. They don’t want to talk it out and have anyone in that pit because it’s only big enough for one. They don’t seek prayer or guidance out of the pit. They’d rather decompose in misery.

It is a choice. To be a victim or to be a survivor. We didn’t have the choice of what was done to us but we certainly have the choice to overcome or remain in the pit dug by the perpetrator(s).

Survivors you know who you are – you are reading this and saying to yourself “I don’t ever want to be in that pit again because it is a pitiful place to be.” But sometimes it is hard to not feel loneliness at times when our insecurities, shame or fears flare. Unfortunately life will deal other blows that cause the flare up but be discouraged!



Remember who you are (God’s wondrous masterpiece! Ephesians 2:10), what you’ve overcome (Victorious! 1 Corinth 15:57), and your strength (I can do all things through Christ, who gives me strength! Philippians 4:13). The old feelings might arise but you are a made new! (I make all things new. Rev 21:5)

And remember, you are not alone. Write me any time… I’ll listen. 😉

Monday I will be LIVE on the Harvest Show!! I’d love your support and prayers.

The Harvest Show is a LIVE International Daily Syndicated 1 Hour Christian Television Program with the Total Coverage Exceeding 115 Million Homes: (The show is LIVE weekdays at 9am EASTERN and then re-aired throughout the day. Check your local listings) World Harvest Television (WHT) – 20 million homes on DirecTV channel 367 or streaming online Family Entertainment Television (FETV) – 14 million homes on DISH Network channel 82 and 5 million homes on AT&T U-verse channel 578 LeSEA Broadcasting Stations in Indianapolis, South Bend, New Orleans, Tulsa, Colorado Springs, and Honolulu reaching 3.5 million homes Middle East Television (METV) – 70 million homes throughout the Middle East via the Amos 3 satellite and over 7 million homes in Israel on HOT channel 131 and YES channel 109 (for complete details visit http://www.metv.org) World Harvest Radio (WHR) – Reaching an estimated 1 billion shortwave radio receivers worldwide (www.whr.org; audio only)

Have a blessed weekend!